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The power of APPRECIATIONS
Among the most important things that I’ve learned during my 5 years serving the board of directors of the Agile Alliance is the appreciations dynamic. It’s truly amazing the impact that appreciations make on the relationships of a team. At the Agile Alliance, we used to start every Face to Face board meeting by appreciating each other for the important things that happened. Actually, everybody should appreciate naturally when somebody is important but unfortunately, that doesn’t always happen. In these intense days, even when someone is really important for us, we don’t take aside the proper quality time to express to that person how important he or she is for us.
At the Agile Alliance, I’ve learned that we can change that!
As we acknowledged the importance of strong relationships, we made appreciations part of our ritual to start a board meeting. I think ritual is a good word here because by doing that we were really able to generate an intense rock solid felling as a team, creating an atmosphere that just paved the road for the rest of the meeting we had in front of us. Right on the beginning, after the facilitator presenting the agenda, the appreciations dynamic was the first and foremost important thing to do. Actually, this was made clear as an item of the agenda.
Team building is truly important for me and by participating on the board meetings of the Agile Alliance, I was able to experiment priceless feelings that really nurtured relationships and triggered actions that generated very important results for our team.
Since then, I’ve been using appreciations to build strong relationships within the teams that I coach. It’s really incredible the impact that true appreciations make on a team. I’ve been fortunate to witness, not once but several times, emotionful tears dropped by the most admired leaders, as a result of sincere appreciations that somebody has expressed. It’s indeed hard to explain how this can bond a team together. Appreciations is something that should be regularly made by any team that wants to perform, specially for the teams that work remotely. The board of directors of the Agile Alliance is a world wide spread team, with board members living as far from US as Sweden, New Zealand and Brazil (me). Therefore, we always wanted to make the most out of our opportunities to meet F2F (usually 4 F2F per year). That’s why we used appreciations routinely, sometimes even out of the pre-stablished agenda times.
If you would like to try that with your team, just follow these simple steps:
- First, set up the team in a circle without any tables in the middle. Do that in a way were everybody can see each other.
- Set a time to start, not to end.
- True appreciations are spontaneous. There is no rule to follow. Don’t try to force people to talk by going through the circle around the clock or things like that.
- Let the silence completely take the environment.
- Wait for people to express appreciations on their time.The suggested way to appreciate somebody is like this:
- Call the person by name;
- Look deeply into his or her eyes and say: I APPRECIATE YOU FOR .... YOUR_STORY_HERE.Example: Jonh, I really appreciate you for helping me out when I most needed. You made a profound impact in my life and because of that I really appreciate you, thanks.
That’s really simple and super powerful and I hope that you can try appreciations and enjoy the positive impact it can generate!